THE POWER OF YES
THE POWER
OF YES
As
of late, I’ve been doing a lot of intensive training. I just ran my first
Eventing Derby and Combined Test, which means that I rode my first dressage
test and cross-country course on the same day. Obviously, I’ve put a lot of
training into that, but I’ve also been helping out with some local cattle
brandings and sortings. Nate roped off of Gabe for the first branding, so we
had to do some preparation for that event as well.
After
Nate and I finished roping and doctoring a calf here on the ranch as part of
our preparations, he decided that our horses needed a chance to move. Taking
Gabe and Nate’s horse, Dunny, out around the lake, we rode them forward at a
canter. Nate instructed me not to let Gabe run off, but to still let him set
the pace and try to leave him as alone as I could. We cantered all the way
around to the far side of the lake and then back.
As we went along, Nate yelled over to me,
“There is power in saying yes.” What he meant was that both his and my horse
are very forward horses. They have a lot of “go” and we find ourselves
constantly tapping the brakes. It’s very powerful to them when we can take them
out and just say “yes” and let them be right for moving forward.
Forward
Momentum
That next afternoon, after Nate
and I returned from the branding, I was watching Amy teach a lesson. The lady
she was teaching rode a beautiful, sweet young mare. The first thing that Amy
asked the woman to do was to move the horse forward in the trot. When they
began, the mare just jogged along, her back hooves dragging slightly, and
overall not using her body very properly. As the woman rode the horse more
forward, the transformation in how the horse’s use of its own body was amazing.
As she really started moving forward, the mare began picking up her rear legs
and reaching forward and underneath herself. Her head and neck dropped down and
forward, and she stretched and strengthened in her back.
This
was quite intriguing for me to watch, as Amy had been telling me constantly to
move Gabe more forward in his trot for my dressage. As I watched this mare, I
truly began to understand why they call it a “working” trot. The horse is
supposed to be really engaging their body, ie. “working.” The horse finds a
better natural balance when they are actually working and given a job.
When starting horses, the saying is,
“forwards is your friend.” I talk about why a little bit in my previous blog Be
Present. But this also applies, in a different way, to maturing horses as well.
In the dressage scale, the base for everything is consistency in rhythm. Once
that is established, then you look for relaxation so that the horse can move
freely forward with no physical or mental tension. Collection is the last thing
added, many stages later!
Quit
Micromanaging
As
the lesson progressed, the young mare that the lady was riding was trying so
hard. She was offering all sorts of different things while trying to figure out
what her rider wanted. For a while, she kept breaking into the canter when
asked to go faster, as she didn’t understand yet just to trot faster. That is
what you call a “right wrong answer.”
As
this continued, Amy simply encouraged the rider not to focus on telling her
horse what not to do, but rather focus on what she wanted her to do. A lot of
times we make riding a lot more complicated than it needs to be. We feel like
there are so many different pieces that we need to hold together, and we end up
micromanaging our horse. To me, this often feels like my body parts are going a
thousand different directions at once. Instead if we can make the task simple
and focus solely on it, then we can set it up in such a way that we just wait
for our horse to find the right answer. Then all we have to do is say, “Yes!”
Because
of this, I felt a big change in how I use my hands during my dressage work. I
have a hard time keeping my hands still and where they are supposed to be. I
find myself moving them out or down to ask Gabe to stretch or lower his head.
When Amy mentioned something that David O'Connor, (a gold-medal Olympian that
Amy trains with in the winter) said to her, it clicked with me. He told her,
“The rider stays stationary, the horse moves around the rider. It offers a
better feel because the rider isn’t changing their balance all the time.” I
began to realize that because Gabe understands there is relief in lowering his
head and stretching, I don’t necessarily have to move my hands to ask him for
that movement. I can be strong and soft without changing myself.
Look For
the “Yes” Moments
I
know all too well the feeling when life gets crazy. Trust me, things can get
pretty interesting here on the ranch! To go from riding the same horse in a
branding to riding him in a jumping lesson within twenty-four hours can make
your head spin a little bit. Sometimes, all I can do is focus on keeping my
forward momentum.
If
life is out of control and you spend all of your time trying to chase down
every loose thread, you’re going to feel pretty strung out, tired, and
frustrated. Instead, if you choose to keep yourself balanced and grounded in
who you are and focus only on what is truly important, you will give those
around you better leadership, help, and advice. Being strong or soft does not
mean you have to change yourself or where you are headed, but it is something
you can change within yourself where you are.
If
you can be real and positive with yourself while staying focused on your path,
then you will be able to see a lot of “yes” moments come your way. Sometimes
they’re big, like graduating, but sometimes they’re something small, like
enjoying a beautiful sunset at the end of a long day. Either way, if you can
give yourself the relief to enjoy that moment and know that you did the best
you could do, you will strive to find each YES.
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